COM 200 assignment 2 – my advice

(name)

Interpersonal Communication (GSL 112 1C)

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Dear Bob and Sue,

All throughout your marriage you will have to face trails and tribulations, so my advice to you Bob and Sue for a successful relationship is do not give up on the first sign of trouble “Fifty Percent of American Marriages Are Ending in Divorce (www.truthorfiction.com)”. Some of those marriages end because of lack of communication or ineffective knowledge of how to communicate with your partner. I am writing to you today to help you better understand how to communicate with one another. When you are both in a heated discussion and are trying to resolve a conflict it is best to spend some time apart for a few hours because trying to resolve a conflict when you are both angry will end in more disputes. No marriage goes without a fight or disagreeing viewpoints so trying to avoid disputes are inevitable and will lead to more complications in your marriage.

I myself have faced many trails throughout my marriage and do not regret having gone through those trails. In my opinion they made my marriage stronger. You will find yourself arguing over the littlest things, such as whose night it is to wash the dishes. Never try to avoid the argument by settling to make your partner happy. All you are doing is covering it up so that it will never get resolved. Sit at your kitchen table and let one another know exactly how you feel. By doing so you are making one another aware of your feelings. Then you can make a scheduled plan based on what the both of you discussed.

Lack of communication is one of the biggest down falls in marriages. Always, always Bob and Sue keep an open mind in your relationship. Encourage one another to talk about your feelings when something is bothering one of you. When the both of you talk to one another repeat or rephrase what was said so that there is no miscommunication. Always let one another know when something is not fully understood. Make it so that neither one of you will think the other foolish if one of you do not understand something. Be considerate of one another feelings and help each other build confidence instead of tearing it down.

It is okay to walk away from an argument at the time you are upset. What some couples fail to do is revisit the argument after the both of you have calmed down. Revisiting an argument put things out in the open. It lets the both of you to say things that you could have not possible said while upset. In a calm disposition you both are able to better understand one another without judgment or ridicule. You both will find that you can also cover more ground when revisiting a situation. Bob and Sue do not think that you’re abandoning one another by leaving the situation. You are helping it to not get too out of hand by taking a breather and reevaluating your feelings and thoughts. Trust me; nothing ever gets solved by trying to fix it in an angry state. Calm down and listen to what the both of you have to say. Do not interrupt one another while speaking. Wait until the other is finished to begin.

As I have said before, your marriage will face many trails and tribulations and you can not run at the first sign of trouble. Remember talking things over will always help the situation. Running away from the problem or ignoring it will only make things worst. The sooner you talk about the problem at hand and clear things up by getting things out in the open the closer you both are to a long lasting, healthy marriage. And again no marriage is without out problems so establish the problem and start to tackle it together. Never try to handle the situation alone. Marriage was built for two not one, so act like it was and handle situations together not alone.