Mentee-Mentor Communication Log

Hadas Cohen

Communication Log

Communication Log Monday-Friday
Date (s):02/24/2018

Can be any day of these day, but use 3 different people.

Person 1: Boyfriend/ Donald

State Communication Style: Assertive, Passive/Non- Assertive

Yours (Assertive): I tried to validate Donald in showing him that I support and motivate him to feel better about his weight. I told him in my eyes he is the most handsome man in the world and eventually if he eats healthy and worked out he would feel better about himself. I feel like everything I say he thinks I don’t mean. So, then I communicated very assertively that once he works out while eating healthy he will feel better then he ever felt.

Theirs (Passive/Non- Assertive): I think Donald tried to communicate back in an assertive way but I don’t think he realized that it came out a little aggressive because of his insecurities. I then told him how I felt and he realized it, and apologized. Which lead to us talking back and forth very assertively and figured out a way to make him feel better about his body by making a weekly schedule for each other that would help us both feel and look better. He then calmly thanked me for supporting him and being there for him while he is going through a stressful time.

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Person 2: Roommate/ Hilla

State Communication Style: Passive, Assertive, & Aggressive

Yours (Passive, Assertive, & Aggressive): I asked my roommate in a passive manner if she would like to clean the house on Wednesday sense we both didn’t have much to do. Her response wasn’t one that I liked, so I replied in a more assertive/aggressive tone telling her that I clean the house 3 times in the past 3 weeks and you didn’t clean anything.

Theirs (Aggressive): Hilla’s response came in a very aggressive manner because she didn’t want to clean. She responded by saying, “she can’t clean all week because she wants to rest, sense she just got done with midterms.” So her response to my statement was, that she didn’t ask me to clean. I think that she came off with a very aggressive tone that lead me to answer aggressively, because she didn’t agree to what I had asked. Sense we both live in the house and I clean up her mess all the time.

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Person 3: Professor

State Communication Style: Assertive

Yours (Assertive):
I got my results for a test I spent all week studying for, and was very upset with my grade due to the teacher wording the test very weird. The whole class was very disappointed and shocked about their grades so I had scheduled an office hour to go over the test, and tried to explain to her how the questions had been worded in a weird way such as defining a word that she gave us in the test that I knew but the multiple choice questions were worded weird that I didn’t know what she meant. However, she responded, and I was very upset with the response. Yet, I just told her I understand rather than keep explaining myself which I know wont lead to anything.

Theirs(Assertive): The professor responded in a assertive manner by saying I can see you know the answer but you got it wrong on the test and I cant change your grade, because that means that I have to give everyone the chance on explaining it, and I cant. Just try and do better on the next test and if you have any questions feel free to stop by again. She also told me that she has a reputation for wording questions weird but she doesn’t see it.

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Communication Log Saturday – Sunday Date:

May use any day or both days, but use three different people

Person 1: Mom

State Communication Style: Assertive

Yours (Assertive): I spoke very calmly and assertive to my mom and asked her how my little sister is doing sense she just got back form a doctor appointment. I was very upset with what she had said, and tried to understand everything in a assertive manner.

Theirs (Assertive): My mom started the conversation also being very assertive and asked how I was doing. Then when I asked her about my sister she had told me that she may have lupus, which made us both a little upset. However, she kept talking about what the doctor said and we both talked very calmly.

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Person 2: Dad

State Communication Style: Assertive & Passive

Yours (Assertive): I don’t talk to my dad all the time but I called him just to see how he was doing sense he was supposed to leave to Israel next week. I communicated assertively and kept it short. I did most of the talking sense he doesn’t like to talk a lot, but I tried to keep it going as much as I can. I think sometimes he may take advantage that I always do the talking that he sometimes doesn’t even respond.

Theirs(passive): The way my dad communicates with me is always in a passive tone because he doesn’t say much. He tended to stick to yes, no, or I don’t know.

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Person 3: Friend/ Ally

State Communication Style: Assertive

Yours (Assertive): I communicated in an assertive manner and asked Ally if she knew of any jobs I can apply for. Her response made me very excited and let her talk about the job a little more while I agreed to go and fill out a resume. I also think the way she spoke about her job meant it was a good job because she seemed very enthusiastic.

Theirs(Assertive): Ally’s response to me asking for a job was very positive. She answered with enthusiasm and very assertively. She told me that her job pays very well, and is relatively close to where I live. Then she kept going by telling me what she does at her job, so I would know what to expect.

ANALYSIS OF COMMUNICATION LOG


1. How would you describe your overall communication style?

   • I think that my overall communication style goes a lot along the Assertive side. I am definitely don’t get upset very easily thus causing me not to be very aggressive. I am however passive at time in certain situation.
2. Did you use more “I” messages or “you” messages?
   • I tend to use more “I” then “you” in my messages. The only time I really used “you” is hen I tried to explain to my boyfriend that he is an amazing guy, and needs to feel that way. Besides that, I tend to speak more in my point of you then others.
3. Did you use any of the editing, validating, documenting techniques of communicating?
   • I used all three techniques. I used editing by telling my roommate she hasn’t clean in 3 weeks. I used validating by trying to support and motivate my boyfriend. I used documenting by talking to the professor about specific questions.
4. What aspects of your communication style do you think are the most positive?
   • I think that the most positive aspect off my communication style is to validating someone because its always nice to get positive feedback back even if you disagree with it.
5. Did you notice that you have different communication styles with different people and if yes, why do you think that is?
   • I did notice that in my conversations with my mom and dad because with my mom I am a lot more opened, while with my dad I tend to be quiet. Also with my roommate I tend to stay calm while with my friend Ally I am very enthusiastic. I think I am like that because it all depends on personality and how comfortable you are with that specific person. I think its because the relationship you develop with each person is different because they have different personalities.